Windshield Time {Getting Teens to Talk}


Have you ever had a hard time getting teens to talk? Yeah, me, too. Let me share with you how I discovered “Windshield Time”.getting teens to talk - windshield timeHow was your day?


How are you feeling?


Are you upset?


Getting your kids to talk and open up can be tough sometimes. I’ve read all of the books and articles about how to ask the questions the right way so as to not be intrusive, but good grief, talking to your child can be just like pulling teeth!

My friend, Gram Donna, shared with me a piece of advice when my older boys were younger. I was telling her that they don’t seem to want to talk or share anything with me anymore. She told me to find out what they like to do and do it with them. Seemed simple enough. She shared with me that one of her sons was very quiet and reserved, and he loved to cook. When they cooked together, it was like he forgot that he was hanging with his mom, and he talked non-stop as they were working in the kitchen together.

This little tidbit of truth was a gold nugget for me. As my boys got older and their interests changed, I would find what they liked to do and do it, and sure enough they would open up and talk. We went through kicking the soccer ball together, going to movies together, cooking, and many other phases… and we talked.

My favorite time came when on the way to sporting events, away games, or music lessons, they were trapped with me in the car and some of our best talks were born. We called this “Windshield Time”. We would turn the music off, and they could not escape me, which ended up being some of our favorite trips and talks. Quite often, this became the time when they would spill their guts out, tattle on themselves, or come clean with something they had been hiding from me. Think about it: you have your eyes on the road, you can say anything you want, and you are not looking at each other. For a child, this is the perfect opportunity to share.

Don’t give up on talking to your child, especially when they enter their teen years. They need you, but they may not realize it. Trap them in the car for some quality time, or find something they like to do and do it with them; it will be well worth the investment.

What are your tips for getting teens to talk?

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I am a Buckeye by birth, but LOVE Louisville. We have cheered for those Louisville Cardinals for a few years when my stepdaughter played basketball in Louisville and fell in love with the city! I live in Ohio with my husband Tony. Together we have 6 kids, Joe, and his wife Allison, Austin, and his wife Hannah, Sydney and her husband Hayden, Andrew and his wife Lauren and our littles, Max and Eli. Did I mention we are a little nuts starting over with this parenting thing when we are 45+? We are officially a Tiki and Jeep (our version of Grandma and Grandpa) since May of 2022 and have 2 grandsons with a 3rd on the. My husband and I are both ministers, and we get to work together in a local church. We were both married before and brought our families together in 2010. After a few years of marriage, we felt God's leading for us to adopt. We added Max to our family in 2014 and Eli joined us in 2017, our quiver is officially full! Blending our family has been an adventure! Add some ex-spouses and two birth mommas and we have ourselves a crazy crew! Coffee is my love language. The beach is my happy place and I long to have my toes in the sand.


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