The movie “Frozen” is a favorite of mine, and this song has always brought me to tears… not because Elsa is trying to find her way or because she is discovering who she is, but because it makes this momma’s heart swell with emotion thinking of the concept of letting go.
Let it go, let it go Can’t hold it back anymore Let it go, let it go Turn away and slam the door
Let it go, let it go I am one with the wind and sky Let it go, let it go You’ll never see me cry*
I have had a unique opportunity in my life to have two children that I gave birth to and created the most amazing team, “The Three Musketeers”. Then entered my life, a man and his two children. This brood became quite a family, but don’t worry – we are not the Brady bunch… well, not yet.
We spent many years blending our family, and it was hard. Divorces and step-parents and new homes and new schools are all hard experiences to navigate. And, did I mention it was hard?
As our kids began thinking about their futures and what the next steps would be in their lives, be it further education or a job, we started preparing for the “Letting Go” phase. Let me tell you, Elsa was on to something here. These talks and plans will make you want to turn away, slam the door, where you just can’t hold it back anymore. The only difference is that you will cry, because letting go is HARD!
Letting go, even in the best circumstances, can break a momma’s heart. It is when you are no longer your child’s immediate go-to and no longer the one that helps them make the important decisions that is heartbreaking.
Letting go is part of the parenting journey, just like the other parts that give you joy and laughter. The letting go part can be full of joy mixed with the natural instinct to resist it.
I now have two of my children that are married, and one is even a parent himself. I also have two of my husband’s children that are married; one is a father already, and one is about to become a momma soon. We’ve had to let go of all of them and sit back and watch. I’ll tell you… the view is amazing. Our “letting go” has enabled them to work on hard things and do hard things in their lives. We are still there for them at every turn, but they are soaring.
Let’s heed some advice from Elsa and Let Them Go… it’s hard but worth it.
*Demi Lovato. (1995). Frozen. [CD]. Hollywood, CA: Walt Disney Records (Recorded 2013).